Fairytale King’s Demands

It Protects Men

“I feel like they want an apology, but it’s a lie.” Mike Daisey and I were sitting in a Brooklyn restaurant. He was a big man and he frequently dabbed the perspiration from his face with a handkerchief that was always within reach. “It’s a lie because they don’t want an apology,” he said. “An apology is supposed to be a communion - a coming together. For someone to make an apology, someone has to be listening. They listen and you speak and there’s an exchange. That’s why they have a thing about accepting apologies. There’s a power exchange that happens. But they don’t want an apology.” He looked at me. “What they want is my destruction. What they want is for me to die. They will never say this because it’s too histrionic. But they never want to hear from me again for the rest of my life, and while they’re never hearing from me, they have the right to use me as a cultural reference point whenever it serves their ends. That’s how it would work out best for them. They would like me to never speak again.” He paused. “I’d never had the opportunity to be the object of hate before. The hard part isn’t the hate. It’s the object.” - Jon Ronson, So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed